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As a parent, you know spending time with your kids is vital in building strong lasting relationships. Sharing 9 ways to help you connect with your kids each day.
Life is busy when you are a mom trying to juggle a career, homeschooling your kids and family responsibilities.
On top of that, we know our kids need one on one time with us.
How do we find the time in our busy schedule for our kids?
Of all the things you can buy, time is not one of them.
We all have the same amount no matter who we are, what we do, and how much money we make.
How Much Time Do You Need?
Before we get to how to find more time, we need to answer the question: how much time do you need to find? Do you need hours and hours or would a few minutes each day help?
This brings us to the great debate of quality time vs quantity time.
Personally, I think we need “
And while day trips and vacations are great ways to make memories it is the little everyday things we do with our kids that help us build a stronger relationship with them.
When we connect with our kids daily we:
- stay in tune with what is going on in their lives
- learn more about them personally (fears, dreams, concerns, cares etc.)
Which results in:
- building stronger relationships
- reducing stress and worry
- making our family life happier
2 Ways To Find The Time You Need:
With a quick look at your busy schedule you may wonder how you will find the time you need. Let me share with you 2 adjustments that can help.
1. Identify your time wasters:
As a busy mom, identifying your time wasters helps you to use your time wisely and be really intentional about how you spend your time is vital.
When identifying your time wasters you need to be brutally honest about your habits and routines.
For example, although Facebook is part of my business as my online community, it can also be a time waster because I can easily get distracted.
I can file “checking Facebook” under a business task but if I don’t stay focused on what I need to do while in there and instead get sucked into my feed, I end up 45 minutes later getting nothing done.
Therefore, being intentional with my time is important for me. I need to write to-do lists that are not only reachable but have time limits.
One way that helps me control this time waster is to use a timer and a paper list. Once the timer goes off, I give myself 2 minutes to finish typing a sentence, reading a paragraph etc. Then I move on.
- What are your time wasters?
- How can you plan to control them?
2. Make time by adjusting your personal schedule.
Everyone’s schedule is different but with a little planning you can make adjustments to free up time to connect with your kids.
Perhaps you can get up early.
If I wake up before the children are up, I can use this time to not only connect with my husband before he heads out the door, but also to plan my day.
I take this time to look over my schedule for the day and seek out “planned” time to connect with the kids.
Take a peek at your schedule and see where you can find that one on one time for your kids. Pencil it in! Set a reminder. Do what you need in order
9 Ways To Connect With Your Kids
Connecting with your kids doesn’t need to be a drawn out elaborate time sucking plan. Although those are fun, what our kids really need is a few minutes of focused attention where you really listen each day.
Here are 9 ideas to help you get started:
Read to your child.
When my children were little I read every single night to my kids.
This time is special and creates the perfect environment for them to unload all their problems. Even if it IS a tactic to stay up later,
Play a game.
No matter how old your child is you can find a fun game to play.
Hide and go seek, go fish, a board game or an online video game are all great ways to connect with your kids. My daughter and I play several times a week in the evenings.
Cook or bake.
Cooking or baking with kids is a great side by side activity. Because you are both focused on a task it can make it easier for your child to share.
Involve the kids in any household tasks you are doing such as bringing in wood, sorting laundry or washing the car.
Again, this one on one time while focused on a task is a great opportunity for sharing and learning life skills.
Going to for a short walk, playing in the playground or pitching a few balls is a great way to release stress and connect with your kids.
Bonus: If they burn off some energy and get fresh air, they might sleep better too!
Take an active interest in their interests.
Be genuinely interested. Kids can smell fake a mile away.
Ask questions and listen.
This gives you common ground, something to talk about or a healthy competition to kick their butts in.
Plan a date.
Take a good look at your planner and see if you can schedule in a monthly or better yet weekly date with your child.
Watch a movie together. Do a puzzle. Pick something you are both interested in.
My daughter and I do weekly planner dates. Each Sunday evening we dig out all our planner stuff and plan out our week. This is a great way to know what is going on each week and catch up.
Be journal buddies.
This is a great idea for kids who prefer to write than talk. Or for providing great prompts to discuss.
Learn with your child.
One of the things I missed the most about switching to mostly online learning was learning with my kids. To offset this, I pick one subject to learn with each child.
My daughter and I were doing ASL last year. This year we are doing Poetry Tea Time and we watch the movies together.
My son and I work together on his Writing With Skill lessons.
We also do STEAM/STEM boxes with all 3 of us.
These are just a few ways you can connect with your kids in as little as 30 minutes.
You can find time to connect with your kids.
Our children need one on one time with us daily even though we are busy.
We can buy out that time by controlling our time wasters, setting reasonably reachable goals, and being intentional with our time.
When we connect with our children on a daily base, we learn so much more about who they are, what they are doing, what they like or don’t like. It allows us to connect with them and build stronger relationships that will last a lifetime.
How will you find one on one time with your kids today?
PS. Do you need a little help finding room in your schedule? Learn how to tame your hectic schedule here.
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