Help Your Homeschooled Kid Find Friends When You Work

Everyone needs friends. It can be difficult for homeschooled kids to make new friendships and it isn’t because they are kept in the basement and never allowed out. (If you even have one of those.)

When you are working, finding opportunities for our homeschooled kids to make friends can be challenging because our children are not exposed to other children on a regular basis, we are working when activities to make friends take place, and we may not realize how important it is to have friends that are kids.

Children Need Other Children

This is a sticky subject because ” friends ” often equal the socialization subject, and we all know how homeschoolers loooove talking about that. More like duck and run!

But let’s get real for a moment, shall we?

Friendship is essential. Do we need someone who we can talk with, laugh with, vent our feelings with, and connect with? Why don’t our children need the same?

After all, who are they going to play in the mud with? Built forts with? Learn to pee outside with? Share secrets and play practical jokes with?

When things go great, they need someone to share that news with excitedly. When the family dog dies, who is going to sit and let them cry? Yes, you are there, but our children need someone besides you.

Think of your childhood friend, the one you still call every once in a blue moon. Our kids need that too.

Making Friends When Mom Works

One major obstacle to working and homeschooling is finding places our kids can meet other kids.

“Yeah, but all I hear is how flexible homeschooling is!”

True, it is flexible, and it is this flexibility that allows us to homeschool and work in the first place. Unfortunately, it is not our homeschool that is the problem. In most cases, it is our job.

Most solutions to the socialization problem are things such as co-ops, classes, clubs, etc. When do these happen? Anywhere between “mom just left for work and mom just got home from work” o’clock.

I kid you not. Even if you work from home, chances are you are either without a vehicle to get there or whatever interest, event, or club your child wants falls right into the online call you have lined up with a client every week.

Therefore the question remains, “How do those who work provide opportunities for their kids to make friends?”

Recognize It Is Our Job To Provide These Opportunities

First of all, we need to remember we chose this life. Yes, our kids may have had a say, but ultimately whatever reason we decided to homeschool the end choice was ours.

Do you know what this means?

It is your job (and time and gas money) to make sure they are getting out of the house and seeing other living breathing humans they aren’t related to.”

Dingmann, Amy. The Homeschool Highway: How To Navigate Your Way Without Getting Carsick

That’s right, it means it is our job to make sure our kids are in situations where they can meet other children. Which in turn can mean more work for us. Especially if our kids don’t drive, especially when we work all day and are exhausted, especially if we are single work-at-home moms, and even more so when there doesn’t seem to be any solutions.

If you are transitioning from public school to homeschool be sure to try hard to maintain the friendships your child already has.

You can do this through phone calls, texting, skype, and other methods. If you have younger children, make sure you have the parent’s contact information so that you can reach out when it is a good time for you to arrange playdates, meetups, or park days.

How To Find Friends For Homeschoolers

When it comes to homeschooling and socialization, we need to figure out how to find friends for our kids.

One solution to this problem of finding opportunities where our kids can meet other kids is to get creative. If all the co-ops, clubs, and classes are from 1-3 pm and you aren’t available at that time, it is time to get original.

Start looking for opportunities for association outside of normal places. Think of local museums that will hold guided tours, parks that have nature walks, and even playgrounds but go after school hours when there are children present.

Oh, I know it is not always fun to be in a crowd of screaming children but sometimes it is exactly what our children need. A chance to run, play, build and create with other children.

Another solution is to find out what events are being held in your area. Our local library has Minecrafting clubs, book clubs, STEAM Groups, etc. I will go in and pick up the list of activities they are doing and discuss with the librarian how the chances are my kids won’t be there for 99% of them, but should I be able to bring them, can they still attend? Usually, they are very happy to have the support.

Sometimes we may need to take a financial hit too. Which is a real pain, but hey, it works. I signed up my kids for an art program for summer, for 20 lessons. I paid for all of them, and they attended maybe 3-4.

Think of things like spring break camps, summer camps, or sporting events. Most of these will be at different times since parents of public school children work and need to take their kids.

You may need to be brave and step out of your comfort zone. This might mean reaching out to a recreational center and asking if you can drop off your child on your way to work so they can partake in activities in a group setting. This is great if you have clients that you can handle for an hour or so and then pick the child up again.

Another idea might be to arrange to put your child in recreational sports and volunteer to help out by organizing practice times on your schedule or getting together after games.

Transportation For Your Kids When You Work

How do you get them there if you are at work or exhausted?

1. Asking for help

As a slight control freak asking for help is hard for me. I had to step up and call my friends and family. I asked them, “If the kids needed a ride to XZY will you be willing to take them and drop them off and pick them up?”

Most times after a few phone calls I was able to find someone to do that on days I couldn’t.

I asked other parents who were going as well to swap days with me.

When others said, “Hey let me know if I can help you!” I said, yes and asked for specifics. “On Tuesday night at 6:30 can you pick up the kids and drop them off at….”

2. Drag yourself out after work

Sometimes this means I work all day, come home, pick up my kids, and drive back to town to an event.

It means wildlife parks and playgrounds on days I’d rather be home. It means me using free WiFi at a coffee shop to work while they do other things.

3. Remember that friends can be anywhere

Also, do not forget how your children found friends before they were even school age.

Friends can be found in family, neighbors, and even our own friend’s children.

4. Make the most of your time

When you plan these outings for your kids, make the most of your time. For example, if you are driving to a park for your kid’s game meet up why not use that time to get in some exercise? Or if another parent is supervising use that time to run errands, book clients on phone calls, or make friends with the other parents?

We must be consistent in our efforts as friendship takes time to develop. This isn’t a one-and-done deal. Try to be as regular as possible. We aim for at least weekly. Again keep your own schedule in mind and what works for you.

Help Your Homeschooled Kid Find Friends When You Work

Remember, our job is not to force our kids to make friends; it is to provide them with the opportunity to meet children. What happens from there is really up to them.

Providing these opportunities is not always easy. It means a sacrifice of time, energy, and effort. It might mean stepping up to the plate more than we want to. But we are parents-It is what we do! 

We can do it.

Need a little help coming up with social activities for kids? Check out our homeschooling and socialization activities ideas.

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