As a working homeschool mom, I always get the same question when people find out I balance homeschooling two children, working outside the home and, of course, all that comes with being a wife and mom.
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“How do you do both?”
When this question comes from a person who does not homeschool I answer basically the same way because what they are really asking is how to find time to homeschool and work.
So I rattle off basic things such as planning, great help, finding good online courses such as SchoolhouseTeachers.com, American Sign Language, and others. I talk about training them to be independent, helping around the house and on and on.
And sometimes I just jump to the socialization question because that is what they are really asking.
The other day a homeschooling mom asked me and I gave her a completely different answer.
Because she wasn’t asking from an outside point of view. She already knows what it is like to balance life and homeschool. To find the time to juggle house, home, life, children, school, activities and more. To add a boss, job demands, travel time, sitters, to this jam-packed life seems impossible to her.
I turned and said:
I try not to fall apart, I cry in the bathroom more than once. Lose my temper over stupid stuff. Grit my teeth and smile, I say things I regret later, threaten my kids when they talk back and get sassy, hug them both and do it all again the next day….”
As soon as I was done I thought, “She’s going to think I am a terrible mother!”
She didn’t. You know what she said,
Someone who has been doing this for as long as you have, and you still have days like that too?
Yes, yes we do.
We all have bad days!
YES, that was my first school day back this year in case you are wondering…yes I am a horrible mother some days. And after dealing with all of that, I get to go to work and deal with demanding customers, screaming kids, the hectic pace, on top of being super sick and hugging the toilet the night before.
Then, when I finally got to come home at 9:30 pm, physically exhausted, mentally fried and dreading dealing with more snotty kids and a messy house. I took a deep breath and came into a not so messy house, to kids that came running and excited to tell me all about their awesome day.
It got me thinking maybe it wasn’t so bad after all.
If this is what it is like then why do I keep going?
For one I know the first month back to school is always bad, I mean like really bad.
I know also know this year will be worse, as we have a major change in my schedule going on at the end of this month meaning it will be like two months of “back to school”. For a mom and kids who do not thrive on change, this will not be fun, in the least!
We will have one schedule for September then another for October. This means adjusting twice, yes we redo and make minor adjustments each month, checking to see what works and what isn’t but these will be bigger adjustments as we add in the rest of our curriculum for the year.
For another, I know the good far outweigh the bad. I am solid in my reason for homeschooling, I know it is the best choice right now for our family.
There are so many rewards of watching your children discover, learn and grow. I really don’t want to miss any of these moments.
Even on the bad days, they are learning. They learn how do deal with others, how to show empathy when others are sick, how to compromise when needed, how to lead, how to voice opinions in a respectful manner and more.
They get reminded that mom messes up too. That I sometimes need to make the same mistake over and over to learn, just like them. That learning doesn’t stop at Grade 12 and it shouldn’t.
So if you having the worse school day ever remember we have all been there.
- Crying in the bathroom eating cupcakes-yup!
- Wanting to throw out our entire curriculum and begin again-check!
- Calling a much-needed break and sending the kids outside while you munch on chocolate chips-sure have!
- Going for a nature walk because if you stay in your messy house one more minute you will be screaming too-check and double-check!
And I am not the only one...
Just the tip of the iceberg, baby.
It’s not easy being a homeschool mom.
It’s not easy being a working homeschool mom.
It’s not easy being a mom.
But tell me….
What things in life that are truly worth it, are easy?
So hang in there!
The day will come when you can look back and laugh at the bad days, joke about how they took turns and didn’t all gang up on you, you can smile at the things that seem so big right now.
In reality, the good days will shine brightly in your memory. That is why I can honestly say, I love homeschooling, the good, bad and the ugly!
There you have it, my “amazing” first homeschool day….so what was your first day back to school this year like? Let me know below!